A couple of weeks ago I had the absolute privilage of attending a workshop by Carly the owner and creator of Minimalista
is a Mum, Wife, Life Coach and Minimalist just to name a few. The Minimalista workshop I attended was so in tune with what I needed to learn at this point in my life, busy family, #fifolife and a business on top of that! Carly’s workshop was prefect timing. I got to learn about being a minimalist in the mind. Yep! I threw out all the unnecessary junk that piles in my mind and threw it right in the bin. I mean! why do us Mums, Women! hold onto so many unnecessary thoughts and worries in a day when its not actually needed??? Why do we say YES when all we want to say is NO and then feel bad about it!!!! we carry so many worries on our shoulders and we keep accumulating them and all for what?!?! STRESS. So Carly’s workshop blew me away! I got intune with myself from an outside prospective and really just chilled the F out with my overthinking and started to declutter my mind. Whats really important?? Do I really need to say YES?? will this benefit me for the better?? these are just a few of the questions that go through my mind now and so will you after reading more about Carly and how she has become a kick arse life coach and preacher of the minimalist world. also be prepared for a giggle!! haha.
Can you describe yourself in one sentence?
A recovering anxious, over-thinking, perfectionist, maximalist turned calm, content, imperfect, minimalist.
Have you always been a minimalist? If not what made you become one?
I had a fairly simple upbringing but as soon as I got cash I got spending, consuming and maximising. Mostly my wardrobe! I felt the pull towards simplifying and then becoming minimalist most strongly when I was pregnant with my first daughter and the nesting instinct kicked in. I started nesting and Spring Cleaning which took all Spring and Summer and turned into a total declutter-a-thon and eventually becoming minimalist. I was initially sold on minimalism for the idea that having less things would mean less cleaning, maintaining and less washing! I hate housework. And while I totally enjoyed less cleaning the best benefits were significantly reducing our debt, which freed us up to create a life we really wanted and spend more time with our daughters while they’re still little.
For a first time parent what would you consider essentials in a minimalist home?
Ooooh this is a trick question but a great question!! It’s a trick question because there is no definitive list of what’s essential in a minimalist home. Each and every person, first time parent or not, is best placed to figure out for themselves what they need or want and what they don’t.
But because you twisted my arm I would say the essentials are literally just that - only what is essential! And personally I’ve come to realise what we need is literally the smallest percentage of what I though we needed a few years ago.
And that’s why this is a GREAT question.
As a first time Mum I thought I “needed” so much “stuff” only to find months later that lots of things went unused or didn’t get unpacked, that clothes went unworn before she grew out of them and lots of toys never got played with because babies really need so little amusement and too much colour and noise can easily overstimulate them.
If I was a well-practiced minimalist when I became a first time Mum I would have asked myself - “Is this essential?” every time I considered buying something or was offered something by friends or family. That’s a such great question. And look if it’s an adorable outfit your answer might be “No it’s not essential but it’s cute and I want it” and that’s okay too. If you’re at least pausing to question your purchases then you’re on the path towards being a mindful consumer and hopefully creating a simple and carefully curated home for you and your family.
How have you managed to have a full time business and juggle parenthood?
Oh that’s easy! I haven’t. I worked extra full time (lol meaning I almost always worked overtime) before ever falling pregnant and haven’t worked full time since having my first daughter, she’s now 6.
I started my first business (Wedding Planner & Stylist) when I was on my first round of maternity leave from my full time job so when I returned to my day job I worked two, and then three days a week, doing that and spent another day working on my business. After my second daughter was born I returned to my day job one day a week (commuting from the Sunny Coast to Brisbane) for eighteen months before quitting that job after seventeen years.
I quit to “wholly” pursue Minimalista but not to work “full” time in Minimalista. My eldest is in Prep and my youngest goes to an early learning centre two days a week and that’s when I coach clients, give talks, develop workshops and work on all things Minimalista.
Honestly I really feel the gravity of Motherhood, especially in the early years, perhaps it’s the recovering perfectionist in me or just the empath / nurturer. But since becoming a Mum I’ve felt that it takes a lot of energy, strength and patience and I personally know I can’t do it well and work full time. Power to the women that can. Me, I’m happy to admit I can’t and that my “balance” of motherhood and business (and staying sane) at this stage of our lives has to mean working part time.
Oh and I get massages monthly and regularly have put both my daughters into an extra days of care over the years so I can catch up on work, potter around, run errands or nap (well that was just the once lol).
What made you decide to become a life coach?
There was no defining moment but a collection of moments. Like a little trail of star dust I kept sort of following and dabbling and finally here I am. My Dad was really into self-improvement as I was growing up, we actually listened to Tony Robbins cassette tapes on the way to school. I didn’t think that had a profound impact on me at the time and unfortunately I wasn’t a completely robust and positive teenager as a result. Wish more of that had of sunk in at the time to be honest!
But later on I was on a retreat with my yoga teacher and her partner was a Life Coach so I had a session and loved it.
I continued coaching for a few years after that and loved the whole process of unravelling all my old unhelpful thoughts and stepping into a new story of who I wanted to be. And the accountability meant I actually achieved everything I wanted to. My coach was great teacher and she taught me how to self-coach and planted the seed of me studying coaching.
Fast forward ten years and I finally did study and become a Coach.
What’s one thing you want all your guests to take away from your workshops and talks?
Hmm, tough. I want them to take away so much but actually what they take away isn’t really up to me, but up to them isn’t it? I guess I want everyone to feel empowered to challenge their old ways, their old habits, and old mindset. If they walk away feeling ready to question what and why something isn’t working for them and empowered to do something about it then that would be the best.
What are your top 3 things we can all start now to become a minimalist of life in our minds?
Whenever something feels overwhelming stop, check in with yourself and ask yourself:
Is this really necessary? (Unless you’ve run out of jocks then washing today isn’t really “necessary” for example)
Is there an easier way to do this? (Like hiring a cleaning lady. Best decision ever.)
Say yes if you really mean it but also say NO if you really feel it. Most women I know feel pressure to say yes to everything when what they really want is to say no to some things.
Look at your calendar for today or for this week, delete one thing and don’t replace it with anything. Just give yourself the gift of space, time and freedom, you never know what might come out of it.
What’s the best bit of advice you have given someone?
You don’t need my advice, just start to really listen to and trust yourself.
What’s the best advice someone has given you?
It was at my baby shower and they said:
Do whatever works, today.
It’s not a problem unless it’s a problem for you.
JUST FOR FUN
What is your guilty pleasure?
Drinking Coke. I know it’s terrible and I should quit but I still don’t stop.
What’s the most ridiculous fact you know?
I know the the entire second verse of the Australian National Anthem by heart. Most people don’t even realise there’s a second verse! My favourite line says “For those who've come across the seas, We’ve boundless plains to share;”. Apparently no-one told our politicians.
I think all of us need a bit of minimalism in our lives. Our world is full speed ahead with no sign of slowing down so now more than ever its so important to declutter not just physically but mentally. I for one have experienced the amazing effect this can bring into your life and I consider myself so lucky to of been able to attend one of Carly's workshops and know it won't be the last I attend either.
I want to personally thank Carly for todays blog post, like I mentioned earlier I just knew I had to interview Carly after attending her workshop! When I'm passionate about something I want to scream it from the roof tops and preach it to anyone who will listen. Carly is a world of knowledge and if you would like to follow or even get in contact with her here is all the information you'll need.
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On our Next Indera.Journal we will be talking to Shana from SistA'Hood
and how she started her own movement on creating a safe space for Woman who have been through Domestic Violence, Mental Illness and bullying.
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